You’re Engaged—Now What? First Planning Phase Tips from a Photographer

Congratulations! You said yes, and now the adventure truly begins. Being engaged is exciting, magical, and—let’s be honest—a little overwhelming. As a photographer who has captured countless couples’ journeys, I know that the first steps you take after your engagement can set the tone for your entire wedding experience. Here’s a friendly guide to help you start planning with ease and excitement.

1. Celebrate the Moment (Really!)

Before diving into guest lists, venues, and Pinterest boards, take a moment to just be engaged. Pop the champagne, take photos together, or even enjoy a quiet evening just the two of you. These are the memories you’ll look back on fondly, and they’ll help you stay connected amid all the planning.

Tip: Consider booking a small engagement photo session. It’s a fun way to celebrate your love and get comfortable in front of the camera before the big day. Plus, the photos make perfect announcements or keepsakes!

2. Talk About Your Vision

Sit down with your partner and have an honest conversation about what you both want. Think about:

• Do you want an intimate elopement or a big celebration?
• What season or location feels perfect for your day?
• What emotions or vibes are important to you—romantic, adventurous, fun, relaxed?

Tip: Write down your ideas together. This becomes your “planning blueprint” and helps you make decisions without second-guessing each other.

3. Set a Budget Early

Money talk may not sound romantic, but it’s a crucial first step. Discuss priorities, such as venue, photographer, catering, or honeymoon. Knowing your budget helps you make decisions that won’t cause stress later.

Tip: Remember to leave a little wiggle room for unexpected costs—planning is easier when you’re prepared!

4. Start Your Research—Smartly

It’s easy to get lost in endless inspiration online. At this stage, focus on the basics:

• Venues that match your vision and budget
• Vendors that fit your style and values (photographers, planners, florists, etc.)
• Styles of photography you love—whether you’re drawn to timeless black-and-white images, documentary-style storytelling, or moody, cinematic shots

Tip: Follow vendors whose work genuinely moves you. Don’t feel pressured to follow trends—your day should reflect your story.

5. Prioritize Your Photographer

If there’s one vendor who will document every emotion, every laugh, every tear, it’s your photographer. Booking early ensures you get someone whose style and personality feel like a perfect match.

Tip: Schedule calls or meetings with potential photographers to see if their approach feels natural to you. Monochrome photography, for example, can add timeless elegance and really capture raw emotions, so if that’s your style, look for photographers who specialize in it.

6. Enjoy the Journey

The engagement phase is a rare moment in your life—before the big day, before the chaos, just the two of you imagining your future together. Take it slow, savor it, and don’t get caught up in perfection.

Tip: Create small rituals along the way—like a monthly date night or a planning day with wine and music. It keeps the excitement alive and reminds you why you’re planning in the first place: to celebrate your love.

Getting engaged is only the first step of your incredible story. By focusing on connection, vision, and smart planning early on, you set yourself up for a wedding day—and memories—that truly reflect who you are as a couple.